Having experienced both forms of rejection more times than I can remember when I was dating online, I can say that the second is far preferable. A very small number of people believe they have to play games to get dates and may wait for a week to respond but they are the exception, not the rule.
Many people remain a little too hopeful and look for excuses as to why someone might not reply to their contact. And an absence of a response means that there isn’t enough interest to encourage the response. Reverse the situation and imagine someone you were interested in contacted you. The rule is that when one person is interested in another, they’ll respond in a timely fashion.
Anyone who enters the dating world is bound to encounter rejection.
Whether your online messages to dating prospects go unanswered, you have a great first date but never hear from the person again, or you get dumped after things were just starting to heat up, all rejections have one thing in common — they really hurt.
It is most upsetting when rejection applies to a relationship but it’s wise to remember that until you find the right relationship, there’s bound to be times when you feel rejected by someone else.
As I said above, silence was my preferred method of rejection.
Actually, when people have asked me for advice on whether they should directly reject someone, I have suggested silence as the best option. A lack of responses is not the end of the world and there are many reasons it can happen (many of which have little or nothing to do with you).
It’s a new year, and swarms of singles are logging online to find love. It’s how we can truly connect and feel out chemistry. The dating platform isn’t the only change I am implementing.
For most of us, “meet the one” is at the top of our New Year’s resolution list. It’s my first time, and I am excited to be on a site that encourages “dating.” I grew tired of chats about the weather and my karaoke hobby. This time I am taking the lessons of 2013 and applying them when interacting with men online and off.